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He could tap a vending machine, and free sodas would appear. He could change music on a jukebox just by snapping his fingers. He could seemingly do anything — well, except for one thing. From the perspective of the show, it was hilarious, but for anyone who struggles to apologize in real life, it can cause real conflict, especially in the workplace.
But apologies are essential for repairing relationships in the workplace. And in doing so, they miss out on key opportunities for relationship repair. See if any of them resonate with your experience.
The Empty Apology. So you go through the motions, literally saying the words, but not meaning it. And that ends up being pretty clear to the person receiving the message. The Excessive Apology. I feel so bad. Is there anything I can do? But with excessive apologies, you do no such thing. The excessive apology can come across in a couple different ways.
One type is when you insert so much emotion it seems over-the-top for the situation. The Incomplete Apology. The incomplete apology touches on a few of these elements, but not all. For example, you might take partial responsibility for your role, but not express regret or ask forgiveness. Or you might express some regret for the circumstances of the other person, but not admit your role.
The Denial. You grit your teeth, dig into your own worldview, and deny culpability. But as much as it might feel strong in the moment, denial does little to repair a fractured relationship and, if anything, likely exacerbates it.
In order to apologize effectively, you need to develop the capacity to control your emotions and stay humble and focused on the experience of the other person, even when you might be seething inside or unsettled with guilt. If you feel like emotion might get the best of you, you should take a break. You only get one chance to make an apology without coming across as excessive, so make it count.
Finally, apologizing also typically requires some commitment to personal change. Keep it in the forefront of your mind. Make the new behavior part of your routine. Even commit to change publicly to encourage ability. In this way, apologizing can not only repair a relationship, but it can also become a powerful catalyst for your own personal growth.
Pay attention to the pitfalls, put aside your ego, and keep your eye on the ultimate prize: building and sustaining a positive relationship. You have 1 free article s left this month. You are reading your last free article for this month.
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The 4 Types of Ineffective Apologies